Early on in 2005, I had a conversation with one of my single, dynamite girlfriends. She spoke about meeting a guy in the most peculiar way. A brief encounter on a NYC train continued to a missed connection posting on a famous website that eventually united the two of them. It was a story that sounded too good to be true.
Unfortunately, I was right. As I spoke with my friend every so often, checking in to hear how things were progressing, everything sounded promising. Things were going great, she was happy and I was happy for her. Then the day came when she called me crying. "He trekked 6 blocks in a Blizzard to see me for a few hours. Then I never heard from him again," she said. Her voice was full of rage and sadness. I was angry for her. We sat and spoke for hours about all the possibilities that could have happened. What really happened? Did we really know? Or did we make up every possibility in the world? The confusion was killing me, Why couldn't he call or even e-mail a simple explanation to put my friend’s mind at ease? Or at least MINE!
A year later and she still had no explanation of why things ended on that stormy day after a kiss and a glimpse of hope. I had shared this same pain and had seen this frustration with other friends more than I’d like. Needless to say, that experience led me on a mission to uncover the truth behind all dating mysteries.
Why Was I Dissed serves both parties involved. The communication avoider will be reminded that human decency and good etiquette applies in the dating world too, while the person left behind may very well find out something new about their own behavior, or their past lover’s reality. We are all humans and should desire respect and honesty in our lives and in our relationships. Being honest with ourselves is a crucial first step towards coping with our own reality.
Best of luck,
Rachel
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